So you rent a three-bedroom flat for your side chick and furnish it, it does not make you her lord and personal saviour. What will make her treat you like the king of the manor is the way you treat her. If you treat her like trash and she stomachs it, don’t be fooled into thinking that she has no choice. She does. She is just biding her time.
Besides, every woman has a limit. Once the elastic of her endurance gets to the limit, she will snap and that part of her that you did not even know existed will surface and start snarling. Of course, dude, you will be shocked but every woman, no matter how patient and calm, has a rebel deep inside her.
Okay, where is all this coming from?
A young woman woke up to find gun-toting goons at her door one morning. The tough-looking men shoved her back into the living room and proceeded to empty the apartment of everything from cooker to bed and television set.
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you.’ He has a right to say and do whatever helps lower his blood pressure. You also reserves all rights to protect yourself.
Remember if he picked you up from the gutter, he also may decide to return you there. If you forget where you are coming from because of that latest iPhone, you have nobody else to blame if things go belly-up and you are left in the cold.
A stern warning here. Do not let your sugar daddy rent you a flat. Do not let him rent you a shop or an office. He can fund the two projects. He should give you the money to search for what suits you and what he can afford.
Respectfully, take him there on a Sunday to ’approve’. It is not his job as the ‘owner of your head’ to go house-hunting. All you need is his money and approval. Make sure your name is on the lease or receipt. Furnish at your pace but buy your own furniture. Buy the goods for your shop. Never think the raining day would not come. Always think of tomorrow, the day ‘Oga’ might decide to replace you or punish you. No lose guard until and unless this journey becomes a destination.
In the event that a side chick decides to move on, it is dangerous to string the sugar daddy on or play him for a fool. She should remember that the man did not get to where he is by being a softie.
Move your things as you move on. Indeed, my advice is if you have already fallen into the trap of living in an apartment rented by a sugar daddy and you want to leave him, then you must leave the apartment also. You cannot be driving a car bought by a ‘bush’ sugar daddy, jilt him and expect to keep the car.
Note the emphasis on ‘bush’ here. Some men, no matter the number of degrees they have cannot attain certain levels of sophistication and there are rich, unlettered cocoa farmers who are urbane in many ways.
There are men who do not see themselves as lord and master of their side chicks. They actually genuinely cherish and care for the women in their lives. Whatever they give, they give totally. They are not vindictive and they do not think their girlfriends don’t deserve happiness if they fall out.
However, since you cannot know a sadist or vindictive man by just looking at his face, it is better to be safe than sorry. Keep your wits about you and know that if he does not think you are good enough to take home, do not allow yourself to feel at home with him.
Why does a man who has a wife/wives at home expect his side chick to be faithful? If you won’t marry her, you must at some point know that someone else will offer her a better and more permanent deal.
Just move on to the next chick instead of embarrassing everybody including yourself. If you won’t give her your name or your home, she will move on eventually. That is the realistic truth. Know that and know peace.